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Helping dads to feel involved during pregnancy

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As a new dad or dad to be you will feel excited, but you may also feel left out, unsure or overwhelmed. 

Some dads can find it hard to know how to support their partner and their unborn baby. They may feel overlooked or not involved, and maybe find it hard to bond with the baby. You might also be worried about what is to come and how you might cope with the changes having a baby brings.

Dads tell us that it can be difficult to ask for help or where to find information for them.

There is a space for you!

Help to bond with your baby

As well as bonding with your baby, you can actually help to keep baby happy and help it to develop in lots of ways before it is born by:

  • stroking/gently massaging the tummy
  • singing
  • playing music

Babies can hear voices outside the tummy and as it develops it will get to recognise your voice. You can talk and sing to them – your baby will love to hear from you.

This helps your baby:

  • to get to know voices, which will help them feel safe and secure
  • tune up their hearing and get ready for when they will eventually talk

Talking and singing to your baby is also good for their development. Find a quiet time when you and your baby can focus on each other and use a tuneful, sing-song voice.  Try calming stories, songs or music when your baby is quiet, or at bedtime.

It doesn't matter what music or song – if you like it, so will your baby. Never put headphones on mum’s tummy though, as it’s too loud for your baby.

If you feel a bit silly talking to the bump, don’t worry – lots of people do. If you can’t think of anything to say, just chat about the day, share a story, or read a book or magazine out loud.

Other ways you can help during pregnancy

  • Be there - go to the appointments, the parent education lessons and scans if you can. You'll feel closer to the baby and mum might appreciate the support.
  • Read up - use DadPad and some of the other information in this section. The more you know, the easier it is to deal with the changes and care for yourself, mum and the baby.
  • Help with getting things prepared for the baby in terms of safety in the home, visit our Keeping your baby safe page for more information.

DadPad

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This is the essential guide for new dads, developed with the NHS. It's a practical guide to gaining the confidence and skills necessary to be the very best dad you can be.

  • Gain the essential mindset and practical skills necessary, even if you have no experience
  • Low cost, high value resource
  • Save time by quickly getting to grips with your new responsibility of being a father
  • Reduce anxiety, become confident to offer the help needed.
  • Provide the best support you can for the child and mother.

How do I get DadPad?

You can download DadPad as a FREE app to your smartphone or tablet. Tap the App store icon for an Apple device and the Play Store icon for a device that runs Android.

DadPad via appstore    dadpad via google play store

Or, you can order a printed 38-page wipe-clean DadPad for just £12.00

Did you know

We also have some FREE parenting programmes and workshops for dads

Time Out For Dads

A 6 week programme for dads and stepdads of children ages 0-19

What the sessions cover:

  • the need and importance of dads
  • parenting goals and building self esteem
  • relationships and working out strategies for handling anger and conflict
  • importance of quality time and parenting styles
  • setting and maintaining boundaries and managing your child's behaviour
  • safety issues
  • issues at home
  • optional step-families

Find out more

For more information, including our amazing feedback and an online form to apply, please visit the Parenting Programmes page.

Talk to Dad Matters

Dad Matters, via Home-Start Bradford District, can support you during the pregnancy and right up until your baby is two years old. Whatever your worries, stress or anxiety, we're here for you.

 

To get support for yourself or for a family you are working with, you can make a referral using the home-start website. You'll hear back from them within 7 working days.  (if you're a practitioner, you'll need to register with Home-Start; details of how to do this are on the site)

 

If you want more information on what dad matters can do or need help making a referral, click the button below to complete our contact form and dad matters will be in touch within a week.

 

Request Dad Matters support

 

The team also hold regular workshops for new/expectant dads/carers as well as walk 'n' talks in local parks. Click here to search our What's On directory for these sessions.

Online Support

From pregnancy, the birth, supporting your partner, becoming a Dad, worries, top tips and Dad hacks, "Dad Life" from BBC Tiny Happy People has a range of helpful videos to guide you.

Visit BBC Dad Life now

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